Face Sitting, the 30

During the last decade, on Mistress Destiny's Femdom Forum, members wondered about what symbol, and number, could represent facesitting.

I didn't have a clear-cut answer then, though I threw some suggestions around in my mind. However, these suggestions were either too complex, or too obvious. Life detoured me from the question. Within the past two years, a concept came up. One that was neither too complex, nor too obvious.

If we could describe a couple simultaneously doing cunnilingus and fellatio as doing the "69", why not a number representing facesitting?

The answer that came to mind was "30". The "3" represents the woman's butt. The "0" represents the man's face. Like the "69", the digits in "30" do not touch each other. Likewise, both numbers are perpendicular to how most partners will perform each respective activity.

Some couples do the "69" with one person standing, and the other person "hanging". Most couples; however, do it with one partner on his/her back and the other on top. Likewise, most facesitting takes place with the guy on his back, and the woman sitting on his face.

As pointed out in a previous blog post, facesitting must meet the bar stool test in order for it to be "facesitting". So, the "69" and the "30" would not be the same thing.

Likewise, when requesting to be facesat, one could ask, "Can you 30 me?".

Along this note, since March is "Women's History Month," and Women's Day is on March 8, then March 30 would be the perfect day for National/International Facesitting Day.

Full Weight Facesitting, From One Who Experienced it for Over a Quarter of a Century

I surfed the internet looking for facesitting topics, when I came across a blog on Tumbler: Embracing Your Inner Dominant. Goddess Sonya wrote an article, "How To Sit on His Face," posted on May 25, 2011. She presented one female, dominant, perspective on sitting on a guy's face. Many of her statements were consistent with what I've posted here, though there are some differences. 

Thought I'd put a perspective on some of what she said:

You can't just plop down on a face as if it's an actual seat, no matter what he says. The human face was not designed to withstand the pressure of an entire torso's weight. You have to counter balance with your legs and arms in order to exert the right amount of weight that doesn't cause damage. -- Goddess Sonya 

Having had my face sat on for over a quarter of a century, I highly disagree with most of this statement. I've had women sit on my face in different countries in Europe, in North America, and in South America, as well as in Turkey. I say disagree with most of what she says, as I see what she's attempting to say.

A human head could withstand facesitting weight up to a certain point, then it transitions to a painful experience where you feel like the weight is going to crush your head like a watermelon. I've never I had that problem. I've had a woman my height, 200+ pounds, sit on my face with her full weight, while pushing down from above to add more pressure. 

My face enjoyed comfort. Goddess Sonya mentioned having a woman's soft parts on a guy's face. This makes a large difference in how much weight a man's face could withstand. There are women whose butt cheeks normally spread, allowing more of my face to "disappear" into her butt crack. The skin, within her buttcrack, is among the softest parts of her butt. For women whose butts don't naturally part when they sit, I "spread" their butt cheeks before their butt settles on my face.

Another woman, over 200 pounds, sat on my face without countering her weight with her legs or arms. She just sat and let her butt sink as far as it'd normally sink if she were sitting this way on the ground. Her butt was "cushiony", her full weight facesit didn't put me through any discomfort. 

Face hovering mistaken as face sitting

So yes, a woman can sit on a guy's face as if it were a chair. It wouldn't be facesitting if it didn't meet that standard. It'd be a face hover, which is what Goddess Sonya is really talking about. 

In the time I've had women sit on my face, the worst experiences happened to be the ones where they utilized their leg and or their arm muscles to counter their facesitting weight. The full weight aspect was gone, and so was the pleasure that I got out of the experience. 

As I've mentioned earlier in this blog, if the woman isn't sitting on your face the way she'd sit on a chair or stool, she isn't sitting on your face. She's hovering or doing something else. I'd call this "face squatting" or "face hovering" and set it up as a different form of domination that's a "cousin" to facesitting. 

I've had a woman, a "spinner" sit on my face on a regular basis. No matter how hard she sat, she couldn't put any "weight discomfort" on my face. Even when she sat the hardest, I didn't feel any discomfort. Every time I felt muscle tension in her legs, showing that she's countering her weight with her legs, I pulled her butt down harder on my face. I "nudged" her legs upward. I kept doing that until I felt complete relaxation in her leg muscles. 

Whenever she relaxed her muscles and sat with her full weight, she was able to sit longer. I was able to enjoy the experience better. 

So, whether Goddess Sonya's statement is applicable or not depends on the woman's weight, and the strength of the head and face that she's sitting on. In most instances, a woman could sit on a guy's face as if she were sitting on a chair. This is what makes it "facesitting." Again, if she's not sitting on his face the same way she'd sit on a chair, she's not facesitting, she's face hovering or face squatting. 

Dominas that utilize their leg and hip muscles to counter their fullweight facesit tend to be "one time" visits. For me, it's a pet peeve. Sit with that full weight if you want to say that you conducted a facesit session. 

Think about his face carefully. Does he have lots of stubble? That may be uncomfortable for you to sit on for full weight (but no big deal if he's licking you).  Wear something to cover your crotch and upper thighs to avoid chafing. -- Goddess Sonya

Most of the times, this isn't an issue if the woman is doing a proper full weight facesit. I've had women sit on my face, full weight, when my facial hairs were stubbles. If her asshole is smothering my nose or nostrils, her vagina and clit areas would be smothering my opened mouth as I orally service her pussy and clit areas. My stubbles are close enough to form a "semi smooth" surface that it wouldn't bother the end of her azz crack. 

Her azz cheeks would be hugging my cheeks, or upper face area, away from the other stubbles. Most of my stubbles would be exposed and not covered by ass. When she slides her asshole into my mouth, while maintaining a full weight facesit, her ass ends up smothering my opened mouth, as I orally service her asshole and anal ring. The sensitive areas of her ass avoid contact with the stubble area of my cheeks. 

Does he have a prominent nose? It may be a problem for men with long noses to breath if his nose is up your ass while he tongues you. It may also be very uncomfortable for him if your full weight comes right down on his nose, particularly if you're facing forward with your pubic bone right on his nasal bones, or if you're using him as a human cushion. Again, some men like that, but let's assume the average guy into facesitting doesn't enjoy the prospect of a broken nose. -- Goddess Sonya

If a woman thinks she is reverse facesitting someone, and he or she is breathing through his or her nose, then that woman isn't facesitting. Two exceptions, catching up on one's breathing, or the woman is a spinner, and her azz is small, provided that full weight is applied where she is sitting. Otherwise, she's face hovering or face squatting. In a true reverse fullweight facesit, where the woman is also receiving cunnilingus, a guy would not be able to breathe through his nose. His or her nose would be buried and wedged deep inside the facesitting woman's butt crack. 

This is my favorite facesitting position. When a woman is full weight facesitting me this way, I breathe through my mouth. If I try to breathe through my nostrils in this scenario, and she's full weight facesitting me properly, I wouldn't be able to breath anything in. I'd just feel her asshole or ass crack responding to the suction by pressing harder against my nostrils. 

Also, this isn't a case where "some men" like this. I post on the Mistress Destiny Femdom Forums, where they have forums dedicated to facesitting. The common trend, among the posters there, and in other facesitting forums on the internet, is towards brutal full weight facesitting. The average guy, into facesiting, favors a full weight facesit as I've described it on this blog. 

Ladies, if you follow Goddess Sonya's facesitting advice, chances are good that your sittees will be looking for another facesitting domina. 

On her steps to do the facesitting

Her step one, reverse facesitting with woman's back to his eyes, is spot on for many guys. This is my favorite. For the face hover method that she described, this allows weight counter balance. But, this is facesitting, where no weight counterbalance is needed for the most part. Also, reverse isn't the only way to do it. 

A former pornstar had me lay on myback with my head at the foot of the bed. She then turned around, and sat on my face, with her back to my feet and her feet planted on the floor. Her asshole was on my mouth and her closed vagina was over my nose. She sat with her full weight, while sitting straight up. I had a comfortable and enjoyable experience. She didn't sit this way for long though, as she knew that I couldn't breath. Most of the time, she reverse facesat me, with my nostrils under her butt hole and her pussy in my mough.

Goddess Sonya's step two, positioning with knees on his shoulders, is a position for a face hover or face squat, but not for a facesit. In a face squat, or face hover, you'll need strength in your legs to support the hover. In a facesit; however, the legs need to be relaxed. 

For a facesit, closing the legs, and meeting the knees over the face chair' belly, allows for more face sitting weight to force down on the face. The woman should stand, feet on either side of the neck or wedged against the face chair's armpits. Then, she should drop a squat and land her azz on the face chair's face. She should sit as if she's sitting on a stool. 

Goddess Sonya's step three, the facesit contact, is spot on. From my experiences, I position myself so that the woman's asshole smothers my nostrils. I spread her ass cheeks before this so that more of my face ends up inside her butt crack... soft parts of her azz on my face, her pussy exposed to my mouth and tongue. 

Goddess Sonya's step four should be modified to assist with the proper facesit. If it helps her maintain her balance at the same time she's sitting upright or near upright. Also, this step would make it easier for the face chair to exhale directly against the woman's butthole. The face chair could inhale with his/her mouth, then go back to cunnilingus. The facesitting woman could press down on the face chair's chest to get air to escape through the nose, and directly against her butthole. Every woman that did this to me enjoyed the resulting sensation. 

In step 4a, Goddess Sonya calls for lifting up for licking. That's not necessary, or desired in a facesitting session. If a woman lifts herself up this way, she's face hovering. I stop licking until she gets back into a full weight facesit position before I resume licking. It doesn't matter how hard a woman is sitting on my face, I've managed to maneuver my mouth to pleasure her until she creamed into my mouth... and beyond. I still managed to get my breathing done. 

She mentions, in this step, that a face hoverer's knees would start hurting. In a facesit, where the legs are completely relaxed and not doing work, this takes longer to become an issue. She mentions the neck craning in her described position. Craning is an issue for a face hover, but not for a facesit. If the face chair has to crane to lick the woman's pussy, she's not facesitting. 

An easy way to remember this is a description I've heard women say when it comes to using public restrooms. Many don't sit on the lid, but rather, they "hover" over it and urinate. Many have described this as "hovering". This concept also applies to facesitting, it doesn't make sense to reverse the meaning. You're either sitting on the face chair's face, or hovering/squatting over it.

The women that have sat on my face ensured that I was laying flat on the bed, with no pillows under my head. When they sat on my face with their full weight, the bed supported my head, neck, and back. I was able to eat them out this way "indefinitely". 

Goddess Sonya's step 4b was spot on. The softest parts of the woman's azz, usually the azz crack area, should smother as much as the face chair's face as possible. 

Both domina and submissive determine what's safe

She closes by talking about the face chairs that want their women to squash their faces with her azz. She talks about how the dominant should determine what's safe, and to not squash with reckless abandon. 

Not quite. 

Both the domina and submissive work together to determine what's safe, and what isn't. This is part of the reason to why there are safe words, as well as talk about hard limits. This should be worked out in the beginning of the session, and test driven. 

This happened during my first professional facesit session. The domina that I sessioned with had me sit on the floor, with my back to the bed, and my head on the bed, face looking up. She sat on my face, then we both adjusted to each other. This included her sitting as hard as she could. After a few minutes in this position, we had established how the rest of the facesitting session would go. During the test run, my "safewords" were nonverbal. I tapped the side of her butt cheeks, or moved my nose around inside of her butt crack, to get her to lift her azz up for me to breath. 

She knew that I could make her orgasm if she didn't immobilize my mouth, so she sealed it shut with her crotch. She let me catch my breath while my nose was still inside her butt crack. She maintained the fullweight aspect of it though. Then, she'd go back to smothering my nose and face with her azz. I had to catch my breath quick. 

This is the facesitting equivalent to "zeroing" a weapon. This is where how rough the facesitting could get is established and practiced. So, if a man asks you to sit on his face as if you're sitting on a chair, please do so. Do the test run to see how much weight his/her face can take. You'll make his/her day. If you're a professional domina, not meeting his facesitting standard would lead to him to finding another domina who will sit on his face per his standards. 

Again, face hovering shouldn't be mistaken for a facesit. People that prefer a face hover aren't really into face sitting, they're into face hovering where the woman's azz takes up the majority of their field of view. Goddess Sonya mistakenly labels a face hover as a facesit. Her blog advice would be applicable to couples engaging in a face hovering session, but misses the mark when it comes to a true facesitting session. 

Debunking Frank Kobola's Cosmopolitan Article - 12 Things a Guys Thinks When You Sit on His Face

I read a Cosmopolitan article, written by Frank Kobala, that lists our supposed thoughts when we get facesat. Those weren't my thoughts. 

Facesitting has almost been a part of my entire sex life. What Frank Kobola says in his article is not what comes to my mind when a woman is sitting on my face. In fact, there's an entire community of folks like me that don't think those thoughts listed in Frank Kobola's Cosmopolitan article, 12 Things a Guy Thinks When You Sit on His Face. 

I'm going to take each of his points, and respond with what we facesit fetishists really think...

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: Oh you want me to go down on you.... so why are you keeping me on my back? This isn't making sense.

For many of us, this makes perfect sense. I already know that I'm going to be eating her out this way. If we're in this position, it's usually because I've asked to be in this position. Every time I see a hot woman, that fits the profile of the type of woman I want sitting on my face, I fantasize her sitting flat on top of my face... facing my feet... while she sits with her full weight and I eat her pussy out. 

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: I see what's going on here. This took me a second. We're going to shake things up, aren't we? And by "shake things up" I mean you're going to sit on my face.

I see that long before the sex event. In fact, I've planned it. 

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: This is so porny! There is nothing wrong with that. It's actually preferable.

What I actually think: I feel like I'm in heaven! 

One of the most beautiful sights you can see is the woman's ass right before she sits flat on top of your face. 

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: I can't breathe. I need a signal for you to give me some air that isn't me throwing you off me in a panic.

As long as the woman isn't actively smothering you for breath play, there's always a way to breathe while giving oral this way. If you're doing this "50 Shades of Grey" style, there's always a "safe signal." 

I've done the later in BDSM, all I had to do was a "light signal" with my face. She always partially lifted her butt up just enough for me to catch my breath... then she slowly lowered her butt back down... and settled back into the heavy full weight facesit. 

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: My eye is basically in her butt. Is this... is this how all adults get pink eye?

If my eyes aren't in her butt, with her butt cheeks pinning my eyelids shut, she isn't sitting on my face properly. 

There are few exceptions to this, like if she's sitting on my mouth and I'm looking at her back, or if she has a small butt. Otherwise, her ass cheeks should be pressing down on my eyelids in a way that makes it "impossible" for me to open my eyes. 

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: I have no choice but to make her orgasm.

That's how I want to make women orgasm, and I could do it faster this way. I could also do it the traditional way and make her involuntarily shake aggressively. The facesit is one way to warm her up for this.

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: She will not release me from her grip until then.

I don't want her to "release me from her grip," but unfortunately, this always happens as she orgasms or worse, when she tries to "reward" me by collapsing her upper body forward and putting us in a 69 position. 

She may think that she's rewarding me. I actually see that as a way to punish me for doing a good job, not reward me. I usually stop licking when she does this, then I nudge her back into the facesitting position. 

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: How can I do hand stuff? Can I wedge my hand over my face?

First, if you're doing this right, you don't need your hands to do anything, unless your tongue can't reach her clitoris. Your arms and hands should be at your side, so that when she does sit, you could use your hands to assist her sit better... and to help pleasure her. 

I don't want anything between her butt and my face, as it'd ruin the fun. 

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: I guess I can just use my nose instead. It's already in there.

The nose is trapped under her butt. The mouth has access to the entire area that needs oral service... most of the time. If not, the hands could be brought into action to help the mouth.  

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: Please don't crush my head. There is so much pressure.

I've found that if I get as much of my nose inside her anal ring as possible, and as much of my face inside her ass crack as possible, it doesn't matter how hard she sits. Her ass crack is the softest part of her ass. She should have enough butt muscle and fat to cushion the rest of my face.

Now, there is a point where she sits "too hard," but it's rare. Your mileage may vary. You could give nonverbal signals to the woman so that she could pick up the excess, and leave you with the facesitting pressure that you want. 

If she's not sitting hard enough to leave reddish pressure marks on my face, she's not sitting properly. 

I've had a woman my height and weight sit on my face, plus push down from above. I still was comfortable. The fattest woman to sit on my face ended up giving me one of the most comfortable facesit experiences that I had. Talk about soft and cushiony "up the ying yang". 

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: Can you reach my penis from there? I'm just saying, if you want to, you totally can.

Most facesitting women do that without being told, that's if you're eating them out properly. If she's my height or taller, yes, she could easily reach my penis. If she's shorter, and she could lean forward without taking too much weight off my face, she could still reach my penis.  

If she can't do it without breaking a proper facesit, I don't want her to reach for my penis. 

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: Do you want to reverse cowgirl this? Is a suggestion I would make if I could actually talk.

If a woman wants to "ride the north face," I give an Army hand-and-arm signal similar to "rally." She easily interprets this as "turn around and ride the south face." Once she turns around, I use my arms to pull her ass onto my face, then I pull her ass down harder once her ass is on my face.  

Frank Kobola, Cosmopolitan: Are you coming or is my world ending? I can't even see anymore. It's just pitch black and vibrations, like an earthquake in a cave.

I don't worry if she has arrived at coming yet, because I know she's getting there. These women could only take so much orgasms in that position that the facesit ends shortly after that. 

As far as "not seeing" anymore... if you could see her butt cheeks, she's not sitting properly. 

If it's pitch black and you feel vibrations/earthquakes, both of you are doing something right.

A Real Facesit has to Pass the Barstool Test

Did you sit on someone's face? Are you thinking about doing it? If you did facesit someone, did you really do a "face sit"?

The best way to answer this question is to use the "Barstool Test." Here's how the facesitting barstool test works.

Look back at the actual facesitting that you did. If you're the facesitting woman, did you sit on the other person's face the exact same way you'd sit on a barstool at a bar, after a long day of being on your feet?

If you answered "No," then you didn't really sit on his/her face. If you answered "Yes," then chances are you performed a real "facesit."

Now, many would argue that what they thought was a "facesit" is actually a proper "facesit." The question that you have to answer then is this, "Is that how you would sit on a barstool?" Or, "Is that how you would've sat on a chair after your mom told you to sit properly?"

There are two ways to find out if you did subject your face chair to a real "facesit." One is through smell test, the other is through an impression on the face skin.

If you were to sniff the face that you just sat on, and smell your "bum" aroma on his or her face, there's a good chance that you did a proper "facesit." But, let's say you did pretty good at washing yourself in that area.

There's another way to find out if you subjected your face chair to a real facesit.

The moment you lift your butt off his/her face, look back and quickly look at that face. Do you see reddish pressure marks on the sittee's face? Do you see any markings, colorings, or face skin indentions where your butt was just sitting?

If so, there's a good chance that you did a proper "facesit."

During a reverse facesit, if the person that you're facesitting isn't able to breathe through his/her nose, only through his/her mouth; there's a good chance that you're doing a proper facesit. If the person that you're reverse facesitting isn't able to open his/her eyes, because your butt cheeks are pressing down hard on his/her eyelids, there's a good chance that you're doing a proper facesit.

During a frontal facesit, if the person that you're facesitting isn't able to breathe through his/her mouth, only through his/her nose if you let him/her; there's a good chance that you're doing a proper facesit. If the person that you're frontal facesitting is easily performing anilingus on you, because your butt hole is "deep" inside his/her mouth, there's a good chance that you're doing a proper facesit.

Whether you're frontal or reverse facesitting your face chair; if the person you're facesitting is performing anilingus from under you; and that person is unable to breathe through his/her mouth, then you're doing a proper facesit, or mouth-sit.

I found that the women that were able to do the proper/perfect facesit were the women with all or a combination of the following traits, not exclusive:

• Dominant.
• Knows what she wants during a sexual interaction.
• Has some form of animosity against men.
• Is turned on by male degradation.
• Doesn't care about the man's comfort or dignity during the facesit.
• Demonstrates no mercy or shame for the person whom she's facesitting.
• Interested in getting "hers" when it comes to sexual interaction/gratification before the man gets "his".
• Treat s the face that she's sitting on no different from anything else that she'd properly sit on.
• Has a butt crack that naturally spreads when she squats down to facesit.
• Manually spreads her butt crack, if it doesn't naturally spread, while she squats down to facesit.

This list isn't inclusive, and even the women that don't show signs of having the above traits can provide good facesits.

The common theme among these good facesits is that these women treat the face, that they sit on, no different from a barstool that they'd sit on, or anything else that they'd sit on if they were sitting properly.

If she facesits this way, the person that she's facesitting will enjoy the facesit. I've also noticed that the women that facesit this way generally tend to get the most enjoyment out of the facesit.

Toilet Paper or Wet Wipe, Which is Better? From a Facesitting Perspective

Toilet Paper or Wet Wipe?

I've seen a couple of articles, with associated comments, of people arguing the advantages of one or the other. For some people, using a regular toilet paper is the adult thing to do. For others, it's the idea of getting more ass cleaning done. After all, if you got some crap on your arm, would you use a toilet paper to wipe it off, or would you use a baby wipe? Or, for that matter, would you wash it?

Considering that I love to have women sit flat on top of my face with their bare bottoms... with their full weight... with their assholes smothering my nostrils... I have a good vantage point on this question.

There's no consistency among women that facesit me on how well they clean their butts.

I've had women facesit me right after they took a dump. Some of them wiped between taking care of business and facesitting me, one or two didn't.

Some of them wiped their butts like they normally would, went about their business, then facesat me when it was time for me to live up to my username. Some of these women used toilet paper, others used wet wipes. One or two women took a dump, didn't wipe, went about their business, then facesat me when it was time for me to live up to my username.

Contrary to what one may think, once a woman sits on my face, I can't smell anything... not even her asshole as it smothers my nostrils. The feel of her ass on my face overrides the recent memory of her ass smell. The sensation of her ass on my face dominates until she lifts her butt up... this is when the smell kicks in.

I love to have hot/beautiful women facesit me, their ass smell never bothers me. If anything, it's an erotic part of the experience. After she removes her butt from my face, I wear her ass perfume on my face with honor and pride.

One woman put real perfume on her ass right before she facesat me.

Many women sat on my face right after taking a shower. Some of them "left it at that" then sat on my face fresh out of the shower. Others took a shower prior to meeting me, went about their business, then facesat me when it was time to make me live up to my username. Others made a pit stop to the bathroom... more than likely to apply some wet wipes to their asses... before facesitting me.

So, which ass cleaning method provided the cleanest smelling and looking butt? The answer is simple... the women that showered, then latter applied the wet wipes.

I know firsthand, from when women sit on my face, that a person isn't going to get rid of all the butt smell. Even after a shower, there's going to be a residue smell. The ass may smell clean, without smell, after a post shower wet wipe application... but I've still had the smell of her ass in my nostrils a day after she sat on my face.

What's the worst smelling ass? Remember the woman that put perfume on her ass to masque the smell? That was the worst smelling ass I've smelt. But once she was sitting on my face with her full weight, I didn't smell anything until after she got up.

So ladies, if you're worried about how you smell down there, remember this... that's part of this fetish's erotic sensation. Going from your perfume/make up smell fragrance, to your ass smell, to your ass and full weight on my face is extremely erotic.

Now, many of these articles focus on the toilet paper or the wet wipe. Rare is the mention of the best way to clean one's ass.

Here's one method to use, if you're in your home.

Stage one, use the toilet paper to collect the bulk of your feces residue. Fold the toilet paper into two square rectangle length, and overlap to the strength that you want. Place the whole rectangle on your hand, then place it on your ass crack so that you could "trap" the feces residue. Take your time collecting your feces residue... let the toilet paper take it in. Bring the toilet paper into a semi ball, trapping the feces residue, then release the used toilet paper into the toilet bowl.

Break out the wet wipe and wipe like you normally would. Depending on your toilet and the type of plumbing that you have, you could either release the wet wipe into the toilet, or put it in a waste basket. If you don't have wet wipes, use wet toilet paper as a substitute.

Now, here's a step that most people don't use... but it's a step that'll keep your ass cleaner than most people's asses.

This step involves bathing your ass while it's on the toilet bowl. This can be done even without a bidet. All you need is a container... like a used up whip cream container, soap, and ready access to a faucet.

First, you lean forward to bring your ass crack up. Use one hand to pour the water through your ass crack, and the other hand to guide the water onto your ass crack. Second, you pour liquid soap, or apply regular soap, to the hand you're going to use to lather your butt. When you get enough of a lather, thoroughly lather your butt. Once you're done, repeat step one, this time to post rinse. The forth step involves using a dry wash rag to dry your bottom.

The third step is a modified version of how they clean their asses in the Far East and in southwest Asia. Asians generally have a better concept of cleaning their ass after taking care of business than their North American counterparts. However, many haven't caught up on the idea that you're supposed to include soap lathering in the process.

Why not use a rag to do the lathering and washing? One reason is that your own skin generally will be easier on your butt crack. Another is that women that do this get more of the smell off than those that use a wash rag. Also, you're not going to be able to hand rinse all the mess from the rag. Just think of the idea of using the same piece of toilet paper each time you use the bathroom.

If you're one of the people who have trained your body to take care of business around the same time in the morning... and have a habit of taking a shower right afterwards... you could skip step three and go straight to the shower.

If there's no shower planned after the bathroom visit, use all three steps. As always, wash your hands afterwards. When you wash your hands, wash them with a rinse, real lather, and post rinse cycle... using techniques that doctors show their patients. This technique involves lathering each finger during the lathering phase.

Rinse, turn the water off, thoroughly lather, turn the water back on and post rinse.

Back to the facesitting...

For me, it doesn't matter what a woman does to "clean up" after taking a dump... before she sits on my face. I make sure that my face is clean so that she has a clean face to sit on... regardless of how she cleans her ass or whether she cleans it or not.  The smell is part of the fun, and is a non-issue when it comes to the facesitting itself.

I have a different mindset when it comes to eating a woman's ass out though. If she expects me to ask her for a chance to toss her salad, she's got to have a clean ass. If she doesn't have a clean ass, and she wants her ass eaten, she'd have to "force" her asshole into my mouth. 

Does Facesitting Hurt?

Does facesitting hurt? That depends on how, and how long, a woman sits on a man's face. The facesitter and facesittee have different tolerances to this.

I've had anywhere from thin women to BBW women sit on my face. The vast majority of these facesittings were comfortable, no matter how heavy the woman was.

There are some tricks you could use to minimize, or eliminate, the pain that'd come with having a woman sit on your face.

One of the first things you want to do is to have her butthole and/or her anal ring smother your nostrils. Before she sits on your face, spread her butt cheeks apart. Since they're real soft, you want more of that part of her butt covering your face.

I've had a woman that weighed more than 200 pounds sit on my face this way. My face was snug and comfortable, and it didn't matter how much weight she applied to the sit, I felt comfortable. Her having extra padding in her butt helped out a lot, as that acted as a cushion.

The only worry I have, with women in this range, is in the breathing department. You could still breathe through your mouth if you lift her pussy up to breath. Many women are understanding in this area, and will help you catch your breath.

I had one woman, my height, sit on my face in a way that her tailbone put pressure on the part of my nose between my eyes. This pressure/pain disappeared when I slid her butthole into my mouth.

Slim/light women may come across as less painful sitters, but with less padding in their butts, their tailbone and butt bones are able to exert more pressure. Their weighing less compensated for this pressure, so it was still bearable.

The longer you have a woman sit on your face, the more her facesitting pressure may affect your eyes. You may start to "see" concentric colors radiate out from a certain point. You could relieve yourself of this issue by having her slide her butthole into your mouth.

So, whether facesitting hurts or not depends on whether or not the facesitting woman is applying a perfect facesitting fit or not. It also depends on her structure and on your tolerance level.

The vast majority of the facesitting that women have subjected me to has been erotic and comfortable. Women that have sat on my face perfectly managed to get me to orgasm just with the mere act of the facesitting... with no additional manipulating involved.

How do you use craigslist to find a woman to sit on your face?

Challenge her to a facesitting contest that she thinks she'll win.... for shopping money.

I tried this in a small town community. The craigslist category didn't even include the town I was in. So, you had to click the option for the nearest city. I made my post and waited. I was about to give up when I got an email.

A woman asked me if the contest was still open.

We exchanged messages, with her asking a bunch of questions about the contest... how I wanted her to sit on my face, where we'd meet, conditions that'd have to be meet for her to win, what'd be considered as her being disqualified, settling on how much shopping money she'd get if she won.

I gave her directions to my place. This woman really needed money to pay her bills. She drove an hour from her city to my town. After I guided her into the parking lot, I looked into the car and saw her.

She had blue eyes, brown hair with a Midwestern beauty set up. She looked like the perfect swimsuit model. She was simply hot. When we finally spoke to each other, it was like reuniting with a friend I had lost contact with.

We got into my bedroom. She was curious about everything, lifting my stuff up and asking questions about them. I got the bed set up, dressed down to my underwear. She took her cloths off.

I hopped onto the bed and lay flat on my back. She remembered the facesitting picture that I showed her. She hopped on the bed, swung her legs over me and presented her butt and pussy over my face... while she faced my feet. I grabbed it and brought it down, placing her butthole over my nostrils as she sat up and rested her weight on my face.

It was on.

I started to lick her, and I felt her tense up... but she didn't show any reaction after that. With her butt pressing down on my face, causing lights to show, I heard her fingers taping furiously on her phone. She was texting her girlfriends back at the city she drove from.

She let me breath easily, allowing me to lift her pussy from my mouth, without breaking contact between her butt and my face. But she didn't need a break. She didn't bend down, and she didn't show any reaction to my licking her.

After a little bit, she put her sweater on while still sitting on my face.

I started to panic... maybe I ran into the woman that could sit flat on top of my face, bare bottomed, nonstop, for an hour. I started to wonder if she did something to desensitize her pussy to my licking it.

Both of us generated sweat, my face's sweat mixed with her butt's sweat, both pressed between my face and her butt.

Then she leaned forward, and down toward me, as she tensed up with a silent orgasm... it wasn't half an hour yet. Her butt broke contact with my face, but she kept her pussy on my mouth as I kept licking. I was breathing easily.

Then I thought, "Aha, got her!" Then I wondered if I should remind her that she lost?

But something else was about to happen in my future. This was my last weekend. The following workday, we were to start our movement that'll ultimately land us in Iraq. What if this was the last time my face ever got sat on?

The economy wasn't in the best shape; she had kids, was a single parent, and was seriously short on rent money.

So, I decided on a win-win situation for both of us.

I got her back into the game, pushing her body back into the sitting position. She'd have a couple more silent orgasms before the contest was over, I pushed her up each time.

So, the facesitting continued, but I got exhausted in the breathing department. As the minutes ticked closer to the hour, my arms dropped from her hips and landed on the bed, beside my sunken head. Her ass continued to push my face down... forcing my head deeper into the bed as she texted her girlfriends back in her city.

She counted down starting with 20 minutes... She got cocky as we got to the 15 minute mark. She removed her sweater, tossed it to our side, then shook her hair from side to side before pulling it together. Her sweater landed on my left arm.

I kept licking her pussy as her butt kept its death grip on my face.

Her butt continued to push my face down. She continued her cockiness by squeezing my nostrils with her anal ring, and bragging about her pending victory.

I kept working her pussy with my tongue. After an hour was up, she asked me if I wanted to continue. I would've gone more if I weren't beat and exhausted in the breathing department. Besides, it was getting late.

If it weren't for the possibilities that I faced, I would've told her that she lost the first time she went down... then wished her luck the next time.

But, as you just saw with this story, this contest is designed to make the woman fail. As they orgasm, they can't help but lean forward... causing their butt to break contact with your face. It happens like clockwork.

So, the trick is to create a craigslist advertisement that makes them think that they're going to win easy money... when you know that they're going to lose. Their Achilles heel... not being able to keep your face smothered with their bare bottoms for an entire hour.

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Life without facesitting

Greetings from Iraq!

I'm currently deployed to Iraq, so I haven't had time to update my blogs. The internet that we have access to is KBR ran, since it falls under "MWR," we can't look at porn on them.

So, I've purchased a commercial plan to check up on my favorite facesitting sites. This leads to one of the hardest things about a combat deployment... not being able to experience a good facesitting. Granted, there are women on the major bases out here, but not where I'm at. As an infantryman, I'm at a patrol base that's infantry oriented. We don't get the amenities, conveniences, and little slice of home that the major fobs get. One of the reasons we like to call those folks, "fobbits."

So, we don't even get the "small" chance of getting facesat by, say, a hot Air Force chick. :D Kind of hard to fantasize getting facesat by one of the Iraqi women that we see on our mounted and dismounted patrols. Well, until recently. You don't need to drink beer to see women with rose colored glasses... trying not having one for a long time!

So imagine what went through my mind when I saw facesitting videos and pictures.

I don't care about having sex right now, all I need is a hot woman sitting flat on top of my face... reverse full weight style, while she gives me a hand job... the sensation one gets from this is better than actual sex at times.

Use pictures to ask for a facesit

You're in a room with a beautiful, hot woman, and you're about to have sex. She's sexy...one look at her butt and you simply have to have it on your face. You can't wait to feel her full weight behind that butt. So you work up the courage to ask her to sit on your face.

She climbs on top of you, straddles your face, and stops short of placing her bottom on your face. You're thinking, "She's not sitting on my face!" And she's thinking, "I'm sitting on his face!"
One way to cut the confusion is with a picture; this picture should show a woman sitting on a man's face. Mistress Destiny's Femdom Forums and other facesitting websites have facesitting pictures. They show the different ways you could get your face sat on. Pick the picture that shows how you like to get your face sat on, then print a copy of it. Keep it where you could retrieve it.

The next time you're in a situation where you're about to ask a woman to sit on your face, grab that picture. Show it to her and ask her if she could sit on your face that way.

What drives you wild when women sit on your face?

It's very hard to zero in on why having a hot woman's butt on one's face drives one over the top.

For me, it's very erotic. One of the prettiest sights a man could see is a woman's butt right before she sits on his face. This could start many ways, even in the car. The woman places one of her feet on the seat, and leaves the other one on the floor.

The man starts in the sitting position, lays down on his back, and passes her beautiful perfume and makeup smell. He slips his head under the woman's hovering butt and looks up. Her butt is over his face, with her panties slid down, and pants slid further down her legs.

Her butt starts to lower and he smells her butt crack as her butt gets closer to his face. First, he feels her butt press against his face, then increasing pressure as her weight pushes her butt down on his face, then he feels her sitting full weight.

This could also happen on the sofa, bed or floor.

The anticipation is enough to make you drool; the experience drives you wild. This goes beyond erotic. It makes you feel "humiliated" in a good way, it's the kind of "humiliation" that could make your "member" stand tall. The idea that she's breathing comfortably, and smelling fresh air while you're struggling for air under her turns both of you on.

Facesitting is so erotic, that if a woman sits on a man's face just right, the man could orgasm without manual, vaginal or other manipulation.

There's something deep and instinctive about having a hot woman's butt on your face. When a woman sits on my face, it turns a switch on inside me that make me want to eat her out with my heart, mind and soul. In many cases, having her butthole on top of my nostrils gives my tongue full access to her entire labia and clitoris.

The women could sense this, as they get in the groove, respond like they've never been eaten out, then "return the favor" by giving me the intercourse "of my life."

The bottom line is this; it's hard to "put one's foot" on why having a woman's butt on one's face drives them over the top. It's a turn on. It's an erotic experience that's hard to explain.

What's neat is that the women that get into facesitting get reciprocal satisfaction with sitting on someone's face. They have an equally hard time "putting their foot" on why sitting on someone's face drives them over the top.

How I like to have women sit on my face

Hi ladies, this one is for you. This isn't to offend or to get you exited, but to express how I like to have my face sat on.

Believe it or not, there are many ways to sit on a guys face, and guys have different ways they'd like to get their faces sat on.

When most guys ask for facesitting, they're asking the woman to do a mustache ride. The woman isn't really "sitting" in a mustache ride, just "squatting" with her pussy in the guy's mouth. When she looks down, she sees his mustache curving above her view of her pussy.

It's like she's on a motorcycle and the mustache is the "handlebar." Usually, when I ask women to sit on my face, they try to do the mustache ride. When I ask them to turn around, they try to do the "chin ride," which is the opposite to a mustache ride.

Neither constitutes a "true" facesit.

I prefer the full weight reverse facesit. This is where the woman sits flat on top of the man's face with all her weight, the way she'd normally sit on a chair or stool. Her butthole is smothering his nostrils, her butt crack is smothering the length of his nose from base to nose-bridge, and his eyebrows are either under or just outside her butt cheeks. His mouth is under her pussy and giving her oral pleasure.

When a woman sits on my face that way, she turns a "switch" on that makes me eat her out better than what I'd normally do. Don't get me wrong. I could drive a woman up the wall, trembling and shaking, as a result of eating her out while she's on her back and has her legs spread.

But, when she's sitting flat on top of my face as I've just described, I could bring her to an orgasm faster than she'd normally orgasm; and make her feel like she's never had her pussy eaten out.

Every woman I've eaten out this way became addicted to the idea of sitting on my face to get a good pussy eating. They've even gotten into the groove, shaking their butts back and forth, causing my body and the bed to rock back and forth.

Now, I don't ask every woman that I have intercourse with to sit on my face. My facesitting fetish is woman activated; she has to fit a specific "type." For me, that's the white woman with an appearance ranging from "cute" to "hot." I give hot white women another kind of oral servicing that I'll cover in an upcoming post.

My facesitting fetish is connected to sexual attraction.

What is Facesitting? Part V Facesitting Mischief and Accidents

Mischief, the passed out victim:

A woman had too much to drink, she passes out. She's out cold, no matter what anybody does, she won't wake up. She's got a pulse, she's breathing, almost snoring, she's just not responsive to attempts to wake her up.

One of her girlfriends watches this from the side; then motions another girlfriend to ready her camera. She walks toward the passed out woman, and straddles her head, facing her feet. She drops her pants and panties, and parks her butt on the passed out woman's face. She doesn't block her friend's mouth, so the passed out woman continues to breath.

Her friend snaps pictures capturing the scene; they can't wait till they show the face sat woman what happens when you have too much to drink.

Accident, butt lands on face:

A man holds a ladder steady while the woman uses it to check one of the higher shelf books out. Then she slips on the rung and slides down. The man looks up in time to see her butt back onto his face. Her momentum continues, knocking both to the ground. The man collapses and the woman lands on top of him, her butt on top of his face. She's shaken, and doesn't realize what just happened until she feels movement under her.

What is Facesitting? Part IV Fantasy Role Play

Many men have fantasies involving women sitting on their faces. This post lists two of these facesitting fantasies.

A freshman's fantasy:

A college freshman isn't doing to well in his class. But, he needs to pass as he can't afford to fail. Failure means suspension from his sports team, or being de-pledged from his fraternity due to failure to maintain a 2.0 overall G.P.A.

The freshman goes to his professor, and begs her to reconsider his grades, give him extra credit, or do something to ensure that he passes his class. The professor decides to take advantage of her student's vulnerability. "Sure!" She says, "I'll give you a chance to do extra credit, but there's something you'll have to do before I even think about it!"

The freshman says, "Thank you, I'll do anything!" The Professor tells him to lie down on the floor so that she could sit flat on top of his face. The freshman tries to protest, but after the professor refuses to change her mind, he humiliatingly gets into the position and watches her bare bottom land on his face. The rest of the fantasy sees the freshman "suffering" in "humiliation" while bearing his hot professor's butt on his face.

Every time he catches his breath, she stops looking through his paper. Every time the professor is sitting flat on top of his face, and he's holding his breath, she looks through his paper to give his points back. She takes her time.

The bored worker's fantasy after seeing a hot woman working in human resources:

A guy comes in for his interview, which progresses as job interviews normally go. The interviewer, the same hot woman, says that she's impressed with the guy's application, cover letter and resume. Now she wanted to see how he handles "BS."

She orders him to lie on her sofa, then she sits on his face while working on her laptop. She rubs her butt back and forth on the sittee's face and says, "If you could take this, you could handle any office stress!"

There are more facesitting fantasies as well. One thing they have in common is that the fantasy has a dominant woman abusing her position, rubbing it in, or simply facesitting for the sake of facesitting. The abuse is in the form of her sitting on the "subordinate's" face as a condition for a favor, as a prerequisite for a favorable action or as punishment.

These fantasies can be translated into real life role plays with a dominant woman.

What is Facesitting? Part II Facesitting as a sex act

You can use face sitting five different ways: Foreplay, domination, fantasy role play, mischief or accident. Part II of my "What is Facesitting?" series covers facesitting as part of sexual foreplay.

Facesitting involving pussy eating is the easiest, and one of the best, ways to make a woman orgasm. If she has a person's face trapped under her butt, she's in control. She places her pussy's most erotic parts in the sittee's mouth. If she's reverse facesitting, the guy's tongue has access to her entire pussy area, inside and out.

The facesitting woman gets an ego boost when she feels a person's nose inside her butt crack. When this happens, the person getting facesat doesn't have to wait. The sitting woman's pussy gets wet just by her sitting on his face. The sittee catching his breath under the woman's pussy tempts her to "masterbate" herself on the sittee's mouth.

Once the sittee starts pussy licking and sucking, it doesn't take long for the facesitting woman to orgasm.

Eating pussy is easy for a man or woman getting their faces sat on. The sittee doesn't get neck or shoulder strain, and their tongue can pleasure the entire pussy. This is very relaxing and erotic. If you enjoy getting your face sat on, you could eat the woman out until she orgasms. You'll feel like you could eat her out "indefinitely."

A woman's butt on a man's face turns a switch on in him, one that activates a primal desire to eat that facesitting woman's pussy out with pure passion and instinct.

The woman could also facesit to receive annalingus; she plants her butthole in the sittee's mouth. The sittee starts rimming her while she shakes her hips and grinds the sittee's mouth with her butthole and anal ring.

The facesitting woman gives verbal and intimate hints that she's enjoying the pussy eating. Many women grab the sittee's hands and lock fingers with him; or clasp the sittiee's hand, palm to palm, while holding his wrists with her fingers. They could caress the sittee's arms or body, or reach out and give the sittee a hand job.

She could give "sounds" to indicate that she's feeling good, like huming, hissing, or inhaling and exhaling aggressively.

The facesitting woman shakes her butt back and forth on the sittee's face, as she feels more pleasure. But, since there's a tight seal between the woman's butt and the sittee's face, the sittee's body and bed tend to shake back and forth in response.

Cunnilingusbatio is a word that describes a person eating a woman's pussy out while she's sitting on his face.

What is Facesitting? Part I Basic Definition

Face sitting is when one person sits on another person's face. Any gender can be the face sitter and any gender can be the facesit recipient. "Face chair" and "face sittee" are other terms for the person getting his or her face sat on. This article, or post, talks about a woman sitting on a man's or a woman's face.

Women sit on faces different ways.

Frontal Facesit:

In the frontal facesit, the woman sits flat on top of the man's face with her back to his feet. The face sittee could see the woman's face, belly and breasts, if she's receiving cunnilingus. If she wants annalingus, she could scoot forward so that her butthole is in the face sittee's mouth, and her vagina is on the face sittee's nose area.

Reverse Facesitting:

For reverse facesitting, the woman sits flat on top of the person's face while facing his feet. If she wants cunnilingus, she sits with her pussy in the person's mouth. If she wants annalingus, she sits with her butthole in the person's mouth.

Depending on the woman's butt size, or if her butthole is in the sittee's mouth, the sittee might be able to see her back and part of her hair. Or, it could be lights out, with her butthole smothering his nostrils, pussy smothering his mouth, and butt-crack smothering his nose bridge.

Sideways facesitting:

The guy is usually laying on a bench, or on the side of a bed or sofa. The woman treats the man's face like a seat cushion. She sits on his face with one of her shoulders pointing toward his feet, and the other one pointing the same direction the top of the face sittee's head is pointing to.

Full facesitting:

Full facesitting is when the woman's "center of butt gravity" is on top of the center of the man's face. There are differences in agreement on where that could be. But, there's a general rule of thumb. If she's reverse facesitting him, then her butthole would be on his nostrils or mouth. If she's frontal, or sideways, facesitting, then her butthole would be in the man's mouth.

The face chair's face takes the majority, or all, of the woman's sitting weight.

Partial facesitting:

When the woman does partial facesitting, her face sitting weight is offset from the center of the man's face. Examples of this include a woman's sitting on the man's forehead, on his chin or to the side of his "mouth to nostril" axis.

Extreme partial facesitting positions aren't really facesitting.

In some frontal facesitting pictures, the woman is actually sitting on man or woman's neck, upper chest and partly on the chin. In some sideways facesitting pictures, the woman's butt is actually hanging over the man or woman's cheeks. Her legs, and maybe her pussy, are smothering the sittee's face. In some reverse facesitting pictures, the woman's tailbone is on the man's chin.

These extreme cases are better labeled as chin sitting, or smothering via leg use.

The hover:

"Hover" is when the woman "sits" on the guy's face without applying her full weight; and without full butt to face contact. The mustache ride is an example. She's "hovering" above his face while he eats her out.

Full weight facesit:

This is where the woman sits flat on top of the man or woman's face, resting her full sitting weight on the sittee's face.

There's a reason to why a man's nose fits the butthole area of a woman's butt crack like a jigsaw puzzle. For women that are worried about breaking a man's nose; your butthole, and anal ring area, feel like a massive cushion. If you sit your butthole on the face chair's nostrils, you could put tremendous weight on his face, and you'd still not damage his nose.

Facesitting classification:

Facesitting is named after what the woman wears, or doesn't wear, while using a person's face as a seat cushion. Jean sitting involves a woman sitting on a person's face while wearing her jeans. Nylon facesitting involves a woman sitting on a person's face while wearing her nylons. Panty facesitting involves a woman sitting on a person's face while she's wearing her panties.

Bare bottom facesitting involves a woman sitting on a person's face with her bare butt.

Other forms of facesitting involve spandex facesitting, wedding dress facesitting, pants facesitting, leather facesitting, uniformed employee facesitting, formal suite facesitting, bikini facesitting, thong facesitting, etc.

Other "how to get facesat" posts on the internet

In 2007, I wrote an article on "how to get facesat" for publishing on ehow.com via a client website. I went through the normal "request and approve" process. Ehow approved the article, I wrote and submitted it, and ehow.com published it.

I wanted to share my knowledge so that more people can get their faces sat on. The more this knowledge spreads, and the more women engaged in it, the easier it'd be for the next facesit fan to get face sat. The ultimate goal is to make real facesitting a mainstream bedroom practice.

Since I posted on Mistress Destiny's Femdom Forums Websites, I started a post, and left a link to that Ehow article. The other posters loved it, and helped me rate it highly.

Then ehow.com took the article down. I asked a Mistress Destiny's Femdom Forum's moderator to delete the link to prevent ehow.com from receiving further "clicks." About a year and a half later, the same moderator started a thread dedicated to how to get facesat.

I took my ehow.com article draft, and expanded it to explain everything I wanted to explain. I posted the result as a detailed post to that thread, and helped it receive thousands of page hits. That's not the only sign that people liked that post.

I found a website that plagiarized other people's work. I found my post in their "facesitting mistress home" section. They didn't credit me as the author, or link back to Mistress Destiny's Femdom Forums. I post on Mistress Destiny's as "herfacechair." You'd notice my writing on the, "How to Get Facesat" post, as well as on my other posts on that site.

My writing there is also consistent with my writing here.

This other website also plagiarized from Wikipedia, taking their "facesitting" article, word for word, and posting it on their website. They failed to site Wikipedia as the source site.

I had to mention this here.

My "How to Get Facesat" post on this blog, and the one on Mistress Destiny's, is my own work. I'm the original author. Don't get me wrong, I like that the word is getting out. I just don't want the reader to think that I'm not being original or that I'm "stealing" other people's work. When it comes to writing, credit has to be assigned where it's due.

How to get facesat the next time you have intercourse

Here's how easy it is. If you've talked a woman into doing 69, you can guide her into facesitting you.

Get your girlfriend/wife into a 69 position with you. Make sure you're on the bottom. Or, if she likes to start out by going down on you, pull her so that her pussy is over your face. Then pull it into your mouth and start "eating."

Let me back up for a second.

You should be good at cunnilingus. If not, you should hold this facesitting trick off until you could eat her out good. If you're willing to take your time down there, and she sees that you enjoy it, she'll give you feedback on how to eat her out better.

Different women are receptive to different techniques. This is important, as you want to drive her wild before easing her into sitting on your face.

You want to get to where you could give her the oral service of her life. The better you get at this, the harder it'll be for her to concentrate on going down on you. Also, the harder it'll be for her to resist your guiding her to sitting on your face.

So, when you push her up at a 45 degree angle to you, she'll slightly be relieved. But don't miss a beat, keep eating her out. She'll ignore the challenge of returning the favor. That won't last long, she'll try to dive back down again; don't let her.

Stop her, and nudge her back up, while keeping the tongue beat on her snatch. Most the time, she'll comply and just enjoy the ride. Some will try to go back down on you. Again, nudge her back up.

Wait till she starts moaning. Keep eating her out, then gradually get her into a "sitting" position. She should be sitting on your face lightly. Some will sit with all their weight. If they don't, as long as she's sitting on your face, you're ahead of the game.

She'll be so into your eating her out that your efforts won't faze her.

Continue eating her out, and driving her up the wall. When she really gets into the groove of things, pull her butt down hard onto your face.

Now, one of two things could happen here. She'll gladly relax her weight on your face... then shake her hips back and fourth as she grinds your face with her butt. This'll happen a lot of times.

Or, she could "resist" a little and remain sitting lightly on your face.

Don't panic.

Keep eating her out at the right spots.

You have an advantage, as your tongue has access to all her erogenous zones, including her clitoris. It won't take you long to bring her off to a powerful orgasm. She might try to dismount you before reaching an orgasm... don't let her escape. Hold her hips tightly and keep eating her out until she orgasms.

If this was her first time, talk to her afterwards. Let her know how much that turned you on...even though she didn't do anything to you in return except sit on your face. She wants to please you to. She'll learn that facesitting is one of the easiest ways to orgasm.

She'll also know that facesitting is key to her getting a good pussy eating.

Now, if you didn't get her to sit on your face fully, let her know that having her butt near your face was a turn on. Let her know that she smelled great down there as well.

She also might have issues with full weight facesitting; she doesn't want to hurt you.

So, if you've had a heavier woman facesit you before, let her know that. Let her know that this woman sat on your face real hard, with her full weight. Don't lie either, if this didn't happen, let her know that you'd stop her if she was sitting too hard.

You want to dispel her fears of crushing you; tell her that you doubt that she could sit on your face that hard. Don't get me wrong, if she's facesitting to hard, stop her...but keep her where she's sitting the hardest that you could handle.

Let her know that no matter how hard she sits, it won't discomfort you. Even let her know that you'd let her facesit you after she used the bathroom. When she's busily basking after a good orgasm, she won't think that you're all too strange.

I've found that every woman that I've broken into facesitting, who happens to be the type of woman I want sitting on my face, became a facesitting "monster" after the first face sit.

Some will gradually get there, but it doesn't take long. Even with the most resistant women, I've managed to get their butt over my face to where my nose was in their butt crack...while I enjoyed the aroma. In these extreme cases, do the same thing. Let her know how much of a turn on that was, and that you'd hope that she'd sit flat on top of your face the next time.

Do this trick, and you'll spend the majority of your pussy eating career eating women out while being facesat.